Who is in denial?

Back in the day when I was still hanging out in the Twin Flame circles (online) I noticed a very toxic trend among the women who identified as “a Twin Flame.” The problem Twin Flames tend to share is that their Twin Flame has taken a runner and doesn’t want anything to do with their supposed counterpart. Some of them even fought each other in spirit conversations, not only separated in person. While some Twin Flames clearly knew what they were talking about, there was a lot of finger-pointing going on with the women who didn’t want to accept that THEY might have some growing up to do before they are ready for a Twin Flame reunion.

The common way to point the finger at the male half of the equation was that if he didn’t show interest toward her, it was because “men are not in touch with their emotions,” “he’s in denial,” or “full of ego.” “My feelings are right because I’m a woman; your feelings are wrong because you don’t seem to love me back.”

Let’s examine denial.

Now… Which is more likely; You’re sexually aroused by someone, romantically enthralled by them for real, truly they are everything you ever dreamed about in a partner and in a woman, but you don’t feel it, don’t know of it, and are denying the whole thing even is there, but you’re totally in love with them, you just don’t know, because you’re that out of touch with your emotions… Or, you’re sexually aroused by someone, romantically enthralled by them, and you feel it all. They don’t feel attracted to you, but you insist they must because you feel it. Which sounds like denial to you? Which of these scenarios sounds like reality to you?

If a person can be considered to be so out of touch with your emotions, what stops me from claiming to you that deep down, you just want to kill yourself, and you should totally do it?

(At the risk of you wanting to punish me for even saying that, I’ll leave that in. If you want to make me feel bad so badly that you wish to put a gun to your head and pull the trigger, be my fucking guest, and let’s see if I care. I dare you.)

If you can claim you know someone else’s feeling THAT MUCH BETTER than they do, you can literally start pointing at hot people and insist they’re your Twin Flame, and they must marry you to prove they’re “not in denial.” Imagine being the person someone you feel no attraction or draw to will decide YOU are in denial, you must be, because THEY think you’re hot and you don’t feel the same… YOU must be in denial. How does that feel to you? Sure, some of you might be the kind that have never been the object of one-sided admiration, but let me tell you this: it gets real sour real fast.

Remember when we blamed ugly fat men for being delusional thinking beautiful women were in love with them and that men didn’t need to get fit to be wanted? Well, aren’t we the fucking charmers, now?

Would you fall for anybody if they showed interest in you?

If you are one of those people who fall for anybody who seems to be in love with them, let me ask you this: Are you possibly just excited someone gave you attention for five seconds and because they’re the only person to ever have been nice to you, you think they MUST BE your Twin Flame? If you go: “No, they’re not the only one ever to be nice to me…” Let me ask you this: “Are they the hottest one out of the people who have ever been nice to you?” Surprise, surprise.

Before you despair and think nobody will ever love you, why don’t you try reversing the flow? Find someone who is equal to you, and just be nice to them. See what happens. Maybe be nice to more than one person and pick the nicest out of the ones who respond. Don’t just wait around for people to take notice of you, you could just as well be nice to others and notice them, don’t you think? Just find those who need someone to notice them; the ones huddled in a corner somewhere, hoping for someone to take notice of their existence, not the ones who are already the centre of everybody’s attention.

(And everything you object to, haven’t you criticised others for not treating you that way? If you’re not willing to be nice to others, why do you expect others to be nice to you?)

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