Why and how we end up marrying our Trail Companions* instead our True Emotion Mirrors ?

We all know how it is sometimes: We love someone or even several someones with the purest of passion, but we end up marrying someone safer instead. The intensity of that other love is dangerous and tempting, but we convince ourselves to not trust a relationship based on lust. We end up marrying a Trail Companion* of some intensity, one that should probably be just our friend rather than a spouse. They are people who usually form our circle of friends and family; our parents, siblings and cousins. Our True Emotion Mirrors are our true soul bond lovers also known as True Emotion Mirrors, the most unbelievable of connections; intensity that penetrates everything you are and do. Now… If your family members are Trail Companions* to you, you have probably noticed how your family members judge the people you go out with? If they are not an exact replica of your opposite sex parent or sibling, they will NEVER be good enough for you! You may love them with fierce passion, but because they are not like your family, they are not good enough, and should not be accepted into the family unit… It’s all awkwardness trying to bring that person to the family gatherings, whether you knew they won’t like your family or the other way around.

You love your True Emotion Mirror to hell and back, but as it is, it’s so full of ups and downs and drama and excitement, that the ease of fitting that brotherly soulmate into the family is so tempting. No friction, they just fall right in, even if they spoke a different language they fit into your family so well that you can’t deny that must mean something. They are accepted in and your relationship will be ratified by a popular vote, but try to bring in your True Emotion Mirror and they will simply… Hate them. Everything about them will rub them the wrong way, they are either brutes or not brute enough, they’re posers or losers or what not, their interests are all wrong, and most of all, they’re ENTIRELY too sexual with you! You can just see it in their eyes how they think about you, the man/woman is a sleaze! What is worse, you know why they would object, and it would be easy to just agree that well, yeah, he or she is a bit of the wrong kind… creating a massive sigh of relief in your biological family.

So you take your mother’s or father’s advice, even if not spoken out loud (the bastard/bitch made our baby cry!!) and marry a nice person who fits your family dynamic without issues. Your marriage is supported by all, and although it’s comfortable and safe, an ideal marriage really, everything going great, you still know that the passion you were hoping to feel when you were a teenager simply isn’t there. You knew you expected to be thrilled every time you see your spouse in the morning, and although you are happy to see them, you don’t get tingly all over nor do you praise your lucky stars every day that you get to spend it with them. You sit down, read your half of the newspaper and revel in the comfort that you both share – it’s like you’d known each other forever. Soulmates, without doubt.

If your child marries someone who you hate, you should count your lucky stars. Sure it means they might not be over for Christmas, but if you’re lucky, your kid will join the other family for Christmas, and you get to keep yours untainted. 😉 Now, you’ll obviously have to spend time together unless you’re all evolved enough to just be happy for each other and move in different directions, but even when spending time together, remember that your child’s first priority and love is their True Emotion Mirror(s) and not your family – you’ve got your thing, allow them theirs.

There is an exception to this rule, though. If you have gotten everything right, and you share this amazing close bond with your family members (at least some of them) like when the kids were awakening to their sexuality, the parents would fully support it and allow it to grow naturally. That is a situation when a parent can overlook the rationale and know that true love does come in the most unexpected forms sometimes and that whatever their child chooses, is their choice. If this bond is close, too, it can be a bond that I haven’t named yet, it’s kind of a cross between a True Emotion Mirror and  a Precious Soulmate*, and manifests itself in a way that the child and parent can have even a sexual relationship while the child is growing, (whether they act on it or not is a different matter,) but when the child is ready to leave the nest, the parent won’t stop them, and their bond naturally breaks. They’ll remain equal friends from then on, but the fierce need to stay together is no longer there. Then, there’s the possibility that the child is also a True Emotion Mirror to their parents, in which case there can be extreme difficulties to stop thinking one’s parent/child in a sexual context, because it is simply not possible for them. The classic tale of Oedipal is one of these bonds, also Don Juan was a True Emotion Mirror to both his parents.

The point of this post is that sometimes we marry the one we don’t want as much as someone else to avoid friction in our family. Don’t do that. Your first priority should always be your NEW family and making that as tight as possible.

I happened to find the perfect song for this post, so here you go.

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