Why are you so…? is not necessarily intended as an insult or criticism, but a request for a life lesson.

It is to be noted, that the Survivalist*’ nuances in their voice vary dramatically from those of the Idealists*. This is why we tend to interpret each other in the opposite meaning than what was intended. When the Survivalist*asks a Idealists*: “why are you so… negative/fastidious/pathetic” even, they don’t necessarily mean it as criticism despite their voice that sounds, to a Idealists* like mocking, and displeasure. There is displeasure in there, but it comes from their feeling of “I don’t know you yet, and I want to know everything about you, and it pisses me off that I don’t know why you do these things this way… and I feel like I should because I love you, and…” To a Idealists* there is no other way to interpret that question but to: “Why do you have to be so… that you ruin all my fun, making you so difficult/impossible to live with…” Usually the reaction from a Idealists* is to STOP being that way, even if it kills them, to keep the peace. That sends a signal to the Survivalist*that they helped the Idealists* to realize there was no NEED for them to be that way.

Another thing the Survivalist*may mean: “I don’t know if you mean I should follow suit. You’re not telling me why you are being this way, how am I supposed to react? Am I supposed to get scared, negative, fastidious, or pathetic, too? What is wrong, what am I missing? Is the world coming to an end but you’re not telling me…?”

Curiously, the Idealists* life’s purpose and goal tends to be so far from dog-type’s scope of interest, that even if the Idealists* would take the time to answer the question honestly, the Survivalist*would more than likely discard the answer as “you just being a bitch/dick with me.”

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