Why Attractive, Self-Aware People Freeze When In Love

One would think that a person who is always being approached by the opposite gender would have an ironclad self-esteem and a pickup game worked out to perfection, right? This is rarely the case, however, and there is a good reason why the most desired people freeze when they should make their move…

If you are an attractive, smart, and talented person, who gets a lot of sexual and romantic offers from other people, you are likely to be very aware of the fact that some people completely lack the ability to assess their own level of attractiveness in relation to you. This creates the situation, that you are MORE THAN USED TO politely knocking back offers left, right, and centre, and that you are also used to being approached, but not quite as used to approach others – after all, the people you are really impressed by are few, far, and between. When you come face to face with someone who is actually equal to you, you have no idea how to make a connection, right?

Too careful not to be a pest

What happens, is that you are both careful not to make a move before the other one gives green light. Because you’re both cautious, but you’re both used to being approached, you both are likely to interpret this respectful hesitation as disinterest, even if you can sense that they are interested, you are likely to talk yourself out of boldly approaching them (or sealing the deal, so to speak) because you are uncertain about what their hesitation means – someone that attractive, you figure, wouldn’t be interested in you, necessarily – possibly, but not so certainly that you should be bold about your actions…

As sexy people get pestered a lot… they know how annoying it can get. So they want to be ANYTHING except the annoying guy or girl who THINKS they’re super hot but really aren’t. They’re ridiculous, right, and nobody wants to be one of those people. However:

How much do you like being approached by a hot guy/girl?

When you think about it this way… When someone you really like approaches you, how good does that feel? Someone you find really hot wants you, wow, right? It’s important to keep the balance, because NOBODY is so hot that EVERYONE would drop everything just to be with them, and anyone who thinks they’re THAT HOT will lose their charm in the end.

Although you may find that usually simply giving a person a friendly smile is enough to give them the courage to approach, but when the person you’re trying to encourage is super hot, incredibly, they need a bit more than that. They know they are nice to people who they’re not really that into, and they also know the levels at which people go to get into their pants, right? So, they can’t be sure if you’re just being kind to them or whether you’re serious unless you make it obvious.

Then, there are those people who are simply scared of you – what men are afraid of

You should also be aware that there are men who really don’t know how hot they are. They may react to you in a weird way. They may think they’re beneath you, or they may think that obviously, you think you’re superior to them. A lot of men are aligned to mistrust a beautiful girl, for instance. It doesn’t matter how good looking or hot they are, they may think that if they look wealthy enough, or in the position of becoming wealthy, they’re a target for little hotties like you who are only after their money. It’s not difficult to imagine why they’d have this idea.

So… Sometimes they react aggressively to an approach from a beautiful woman. They may think you need to be shown they’re not the “snap your fingers and I’m yours” kind of a guy. You might not realize this, because you’d never abuse a man, but that doesn’t mean other women haven’t done that or that they wouldn’t do that. Work extra hard to prove you’re not like them.

What women fear

Sexy women fear that they are acting too eager. They often fear the slut label a lot, especially when they’re serious about a guy. They don’t want him to think that she sleeps with everyone, or if she’s a bit of a free spirit, she may fear his judgment.

A self-aware woman may fear that she’s actually just thinking she’s as hot as she thinks she is, and because a lot of people avoid giving positive feedback to someone who they think is a threat, they may not be certain. Depends on a woman.

She might be used to being approached by men, and as the stereotype is that women are approached by men, she doesn’t know what it means if you expect her to come to you. Hot men, however, are approached ALL THE TIME, so you might be wondering why she doesn’t.

It is, however, unlikely a beautiful woman would fear that YOU are after one thing only – most men would die to marry her. She’s used to being treated with a level of respect and doesn’t know what to do if a guy attacks her like some guys do to balance the playing field a little – from their perspective. She doesn’t do cat and mouse games nearly as likely as someone who thinks she has something to prove or gain – after all, SHE COULD marry any guy she wants, and is not likely think that cat and mouse games are her thing, but are beneath her a bit. She waits for a guy who can approach her as her equal, with confidence that isn’t dominating.

And, if she’s a good one, she knows she can afford to be picky… And that other women are not really a threat to her. So, if you try to use another woman to egg her on, easily she simply moves on, after all, if you’ve picked someone else, there’s plenty of fish in the sea for her. This, unless you’re a True Emotion Mirror, in which case, she maybe heart broken, but respects your choice… At least will try her hardest to accept it and move on rather than be spurred into a catfight. (Polygynous thing, by the way, so you better be prepared to marry several girls if you play this tactic successfully.)

Anyway. Don’t assume hot people act the same way as the normies. They simply don’t.

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