I want to start this by saying, that sometimes our attention is held by a specific individual for no apparent reason at all and you feel you can’t stop thinking about them (or, in fact, something). It can be a celebrity, I might add, but it can also be anyone at all in your life. This DOES NOT necessarily mean that you are in love with them, or that you are destined to be with this person, but it does mean that they hold a key to SOMETHING you need to know about yourself, and the fact you can’t stop thinking about them means that you need to tap to that part of yourself that is interested about this person (or thing).

If you use Tarot, ask your cards this: “What is it about this person (thing) that intrigues me? Why can’t I look away?” Sometimes we are fixated on someone who we don’t even like. Sometimes we deliberately avoid someone we feel like we want to examine up close simply  because we feel it is inappropriate or that you don’t know what terrifying secrets you will unearth if you do.

I hate to say this, but I’ve been fighting my own interest towards a whole bunch of people because I knew something: They WERE NOT GOING TO BE a part of my everyday life in the future. THEY disagreed. The reason why they disagreed was that they hadn’t yet met their True Emotion Mirrors in their proper context, and they thought I was the closest thing to it. Even though I was ready to drop them all, I couldn’t stop thinking about them because THEY DEMANDED my attention. On the spirit level. Eventually, I gave into the worst one of them, the focal point of my frustrations. The irritation factor. The NUISANCE. The person who I MOST wanted out of my life forever, and I decided I had to come up with SOMETHING for her to do. I’ve had a few attempts at this. I’ve gone from locking her inside a portaloo permanently to making her my right-hand girl, and everything in between, until I hit the KEY element: “I don’t want her anywhere near me, but she needs a role.” And then it started to unravel, the POINT of her existence in my life became clear. It was exactly what she wanted: “She, in my head, adds: EXACTLY what I wanted, not NEAR what I wanted, PERFECTLY, TO THE LAST DETAIL, perfectly what I insisted on but couldn’t put my finger on because it was a position we’ve never heard anyone have before.” I tried her in so many roles in my life and they were all wrong, because nobody had ever HAD a job like hers before… In this setting at least. (I would have to look into the lives of historical kings and queens to see if they had a person like that in their staff, they probably did, my Royal advisors from the Winsor family tell me they do know a word for such a person. 😀 My spirit guides are just beyond awesome!)

What was even more amazing about this thing was, that after they spent 4 years INSISTING to be made a part of my life, and me insisting that they were not going to be a part of my life, THEY felt relieved to see that I WASN’T GOING TO BE THERE TO KILL THEIR BUZZ when they got to the place they wanted to be at!!

What is it that you can’t stop thinking about?

Think about the emotion that you are focussed on. What is it that you are fixated on? Love? “I want someone like him” or “I want to be with this man,” perhaps? What are you denying? “There is a chance for this to be real” or “this is not quite the love of my life, but close.” Are you telling yourself that you are NOT SUPPOSED TO be thinking about this person or thing and that it is stupid to hope that him/her/it would have anything to do with your life in the future? Remember that it might be the most obscure idea that will click things in place for you. Where do you want to be with that person? What is the location? What do you want to tell them? Also, remember that what we sometimes take for romantic interest, maybe something completely different. We are just so conditioned to think that if we are interested in someone of the opposite gender, that that is romantic interest automatically. No. They might have something COMPLETELY DIFFERENT for you, but something that will open up a world of possibilities for you.

Should you be thinking of someone like Ville Valo, for instance, a Finnish rock musician who has created a unique genre of rock, named “love metal”. He, at least, represents a different type of a romantic man, someone who is quite sensible (Finnish), slightly mysterious, romantic in the gothic sort of way, but yet… Still very human. He is not at all a typical male, so, what would be the key ingredient in someone like him that draws your attention? His approachability? The dynamic… Right, I am getting lost in one man, now, but you see my point?

Sometimes we feel embarrassed because we can’t stop thinking about someone who is not a part of our lives, famous or not. That embarrassment also leads to a blockage, because we don’t really even want to figure out what it is, because it might be something really bad… 😀 Most often, it isn’t. Once you give yourself the permission to look into it, even the wildest dreams may turn out to be the exact right thing: “I want to marry him. That is all there is to it.”

(And no, I am not speaking personally in this case, although I  must say, Ville Valo, in person, did leave an impression, because he was far more masculine than what his public image puts across. Even powerful rather than wispy. I swear some spirit is pulling this Ville Valo stuff out of me right now. :D)

So. What is it?

Take your time so you don’t mess up your intuition, but once you’ve got a good solid grasp on where that person, by your intuition, fits, then have a look at the Personality Mirror Soulmate Types, and see if you can spot them. (Read through the list fast first, and then, in depth once something jumps out at you.)

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