Why can’t we “just trust” the True Emotion Mirror connection?

A True Emotion Mirror connection benefits from certain innocent faith in love. Realism is a little toxic to it, but being a realist myself, I cannot help but analyze. “Why can’t you just trust it?” is like asking a cow to “just fly.” Maybe a better analogy would be an injured bird. You can’t “just trust” something that has so many red flags around it, and somehow just turn “innocent and naive” when you’ve seen it all already.

We’ve seen innocent faith in love lead people into awful situations, thinking, “They’re in love.” We’ve seen love been taken advantage of, naivety, trust leading to you being robbed and battered… There’s no merit to say you have to be naive to become lucky again. That would be irresponsible.

But you can learn to tell the difference, to rise above this phase: doubt and seeking for the red flags… That tend to be somewhat numerous in True Emotion Mirror relationships… At the same time you know it’s not the same thing.

I’m particularly thinking of a former friend of mine.

I had a friend who is very innocent and naive in certain ways. She fully believes she’s going to be loved, she is loved, she’s worthy, etc. She was happy to fall in love, often was shown to the cruel reality of not being loved again, but she has still not learned her lesson. You cannot FAITH your way to being loved. You can fool yourself, sure, but does that make it real? No. And everyone else around you can see it except you.

Sure you’ll live happier in a state of self-deception.

SURE, people who deceive themselves into believing they’re happily married are happier… In theory. Of course, if you believe that by just shutting your eyes from all doubt and fear and just believing you’re loved back you’ll be able to live that fantasy without any intrusion from reality – until you no longer can.

Sure, you’ve seemingly found the magic love fountain—self-delusion is its name—and it’s lovely drinking from it—until it no longer is. It is a poisonous treat that gives you an artificial high before it kills you.

A pessimist won’t be disappointed… And frankly, neither does a realist. But you know who gets mangled over? A self-delusional optimist.

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