It is dangerous to… test a man’s love by being mean to him. The reason why men leave the women they love is often the way he is being treated; he believes he is not loved back (no matter what he does). Quite simple really. If she is continually pushing his buttons for an argument (because she wants to create intimacy this way) he will easily interpret it as he is not wanted, he is not loved, or, even worse, he is in the way of the happiness of the woman that he loves. Often, when he leaves without a word, it simply reads: “OK, I will do as you wish and relieve you from my company.” He has been beaten enough, the message has sunk in: “You are not wanted, loved, or needed. You are nothing to me.”

Often women hold an ideal of “I will never leave you no matter what”, and they test their partners resolve to stay in the relationship by being as mean as possible to them. Now, this is a very immature and stupid way to deal with relationships, but it is common in women. However, what men can do is to recognise this behavior and learn to put an end to it, because there is another thing that she is testing: Can you stand up for yourself? They will try to make you submit, only to see you stand up and take your place as the head of the family. This is often a difficult place; A man, as in a Elder Souls* will always consider a million times whether they are fit for the job they are being asked to fulfil while the Young Soul* (often the woman) considers the job theirs if they can bully their way into it. The healthiest way to think is somewhere in the middle.

Men leave the women they love to show that love

While to a lot of women, the ultimate show of love is to stay no matter what to a lot of men the ultimate love is to let go of the one you love, if you feel they would be happier with someone else or without them. This, to the woman, feels like he just gave up on her; “You didn’t love me enough to stand for this.” Now… To be fair, I, as a Elder Souls* do feel that if the only thing you get in a relationship is bullshit and nagging, what is it good for, anyway, so I am all for leaving when the balance simply does go to the side of: “Yeah, you know what, I DO NOT love you enough to stand for this” and to me, that is a good enough reason to go. However, if you feel relieved to think that that is all it was, I’d try knocking on the door again and ask if it was that… Or did they really want you to go… Or call him and tell him that you love him and want him back and that your attitude was just about testing your boundaries – and that now you know them.

Sometimes men leave the women they love because they feel their actions are putting her in danger in some way. Financial troubles, criminal activities, falling into trouble of some kind that he might not want to worry the woman with but exit the relationship before she gets affected by it, is another way for him to show love to her without being able to say why he has to leave her. Sometimes, even when he falls ill, he leaves her before she has to take care of him, even though, again, to a lot of women the ability to take care of her husband when he is ill is the ultimate chance to show him she cares, sometimes so much that she’s been wishing, for years to have that opportunity – and that might not be the wisest thing to wish for, either, Law of Attraction wise, but, unwittingly, of course will bring about the desired effect sometimes…

The fact they can’t handle their emotions is the least likely cause for men leave the women they love

Unless it’s the turmoil of feeling he wants more than what he dares to ask of her, often sexually speaking. This can be a cause for a lot of anger and frustration; “I want to do these things to you and I know you won’t love me after that, as women don’t like that kind of thing!” (Neeewsflash: they do.) It would be wise, for a guy, to at least tell her what he would like to do, and get that out in the open, to air those feelings out and see what reception they’re going to get. If you’re the girl, get him to blurt this stuff out, if you’re the guy, go right ahead and say it: “I want to watch another guy fuck you…” “I want to tie you up and whip you…” These are not bad things to say to a lady. 😉

As a woman, it is also important to remember that if you ask a man to share his feelings with you, you are asking them to bare their soul to you. If he does, the last thing you want to do is to tell him that he shouldn’t feel that or that the feelings that he shared were “the wrong ones” or stuff you don’t want to hear about. If you ask him to share his feelings, you will accept whatever comes out, and deal with your own issues regarding those feelings before you slam them back in his throat and wonder why he will never do that again. “I tried it once, and you didn’t like it…” Why would anyone try it again, if what they get is judgement and a horrified reaction of… maybe “you should see a shrink!”

Makes sense?

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