Why do some people poke at you ALL THE TIME?

Emotionally unstable people don’t seem to understand calm people. A calm person makes them nervous. They believe they’re “full of anger,” or “suppressing their emotions,” or “tense,” when in fact, you’re just calm. Therefore, they may try to invoke an emotional response in you to “help you vent.” In doing so, they may wind up being the only irritation in life you’ve got.

The best defense is to invite them to sit down with you and learn to breathe. Ask them why they feel the need to pick a fight with you; ask them what the matter is, what’s wrong with them, rather than waste time explaining nothing is wrong with you. They may try to give you attention, so you’d give them attention as thanks. Skip the part of the attention that you don’t need and turn the question around.

People who want to poke at your flaws may also do so so that you wouldn’t notice how flawed they are. Turn your attention to their flaws for a counterattack. (I know how boring some people can be tho.. I find it difficult to focus on some people for longer than five seconds, even for self-defence, but you know… Let’s try.)

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