Why do some people (the Survivalist*) fear sex?

Remember that for the Survivalist*, everything is a social or a communal thing. Sex is no different. The Survivalist* have an interesting fear of intimacy. They fear everything one-on-one, because that, to them, feels like they have been ousted from the security of the group. When separated from the group, they feel they are either being talked into doing something bad or being taken advantage of – being deceived somehow. They always feel like they need a second opinion on everything, or for someone to over-look things.

In a monogamist society, sex, to them, feels suspicious. Because sex is done behind closed doors, between two people, and you’re even told you can’t really have a friend with you or that makes you a bad person. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. They feel anything that requires only two people in the room at once seems like asking for trouble. What’s the secrecy? Why is nobody else allowed in the room?

The porn flick that tweaked me to it

I was watching this porn flick about, of ALL THINGS, pee hole fucking. This is a practice about as kinky as I’ve ever seen, something that the most of us say: “THE WHAT NOW FUCKING THE WHAT?!” Because it is unusual, the film contained a lot of instruction. “Get that over there”, okay, slowly, take that out. Now… Fuck her slow… okay go on…”

This was a 4 person process. One was videoing, one was taking still shots and instructing, one was fucking, and one was taking it all. THE team effort was the thing that my the Survivalist* thinking spirit guides went WILD about!

It wasn’t what was happening, it was the fact someone was showing them how to do it, someone with a calm certain voice, and it wasn’t done behind closed doors but with several people present, all working together to get that girl off.

(The Idealists* would be turned on by the fact there were 3 men in the room ganging up on one poor defenseless lady completely violated while the cameras were rolling! The irony is that where the Idealists*, wild, sexual, and adventurous, saw a titillating danger, the Survivalist* saw security and safety.)

(If you’re curious, here’s the video.)

the Survivalist* stop thinking inside a group

What is interesting, is that the usually kinky and adventurous the Idealists* would be quite equipped to say: “Yeah hell no to the no, that’s lunatic!” to a suggestion of fucking someone in the pee hole (with an actual penis!!) because they can JUDGE FOR THEMSELVES, (and they’d also be equally equipped to say YES PLEASE if that’s how they feel,) but the Survivalist* love to do anything as a group… Whatever they feel the group sees as a good thing, they’ll feel it’s a good thing, or feel peer pressured into doing anyway. (Then they get surprised when they get into trouble. They’re the reason why there’s a Finnish saying; “Joukossa tyhmyys tiivistyy”, “stupidity gets thicker still in a group”. (Not necessarily referring to the video in question.)

Learning is a turn on

We all are hard-wired into seeking company that makes us expand and learn new things. As old souls, the Idealists* are starved for new opportunities to do so, but they are magnets to people wishing to learn from them. (Unfortunately, the young souls are also possessive of them, so if they find a good the Idealists* thinking teacher, they want to hog them all to themselves and make sure nobody else finds them. This often locks the Idealists* thinking information businesses to place because the Survivalist* thinking customers suffocate them to death.)

The Survivalist*, also known as young souls, are pretty scared about everything still. Everything is new to them. The Idealists* are searching for new stuff to get excited/scared about. They need that rush of insecurity or the unknown to feel amazed and excited again. The Idealists* aren’t stupid, however, nobody wants to get into a situation they have no idea how to handle, not even the Idealists*. They will be confident in figuring it out for themselves, whereas the Survivalist* would require help from their spouse, boy/girlfriend, closest friends and family.

Not only that, but the Survivalist* are afraid of love!

Nothing is much scarier than love, that is true, but the Survivalist* are terrified of it. They systematically confuse love for commitment or permanence of the relationship. They fear all love and lust that leads to a person breaking off from the flock (as love does that to a person, makes them want to leave mom and dad to fuck the brains out of a total stranger they fell for). This kind of erratic behavior scares the crap out of the Survivalist*, who will protest to a love-seeking the Idealists*: “There are plenty of nice girls/men in your own village…” Just keep it in the family, right?

This is a complicated equation, as you know, but the Survivalist* fear strangers, unknown things, and unknown feelings. When they sense an unknown “predator” aka. a man in love, near their daughter or a friend, they freak the shit out. When that love is also sexual, and that man (or men, or women) want to separate the object of their love from their “tribe”, which is normal the Idealists* behavior, the Survivalist* freak out. (Narcissistic abuse is all about the Survivalist*/the Idealists* differences, nothing more. Neither party is abnormal, just from two different thinker groups.)

When the Idealists* fall in love, they truly want to be alone with that person, separate themselves from others, have wild sex from dusk to dawn and never be seen again, really, and this, to the Survivalist* is beyond bizarre. They cannot understand it. If there’s nothing to be ashamed about, why are they not doing it all in front of everybody? In the meanwhile, the Idealists* view sexual love as a private matter (exhibitionist stuff aside, different matter with the same people, different mood entirely) and want the Survivalist* to mind their own damned business.

The Idealists* are like the animal species that find a mate and leave their birth family to start their own. They’ll never come back or look back, if they do, they’ll be fighting for territory, against their own parents or siblings. (In civilized human societies the Idealists* return to their families to greet them but not much more. It is not natural for them to come back to their parents but they do as that’s the expectation.)

The Survivalist* are like flock animals, they remain with each other through life and do everything together. Unfortunately, in human species, these two thinker types are gloriously mixed due to the rise of consciousness, that hasn’t really caught up with it all yet. We’ve tried to all get along as if we were all alike, but we simply are not. “Do unto others as you’d do to yourself” is simply bad advice, sorry to say, Jesus.

The reason why the Survivalist* regard sex as “childish”

In the Survivalist* thinking spirituality, sex is not seen as an unholy act, it is seen as “a lower”, less developed act because it is done separately from the family. The reason is quite likely the same as described before; if it is not for the community, it is worth nothing. This, in the Idealists* thinking spirituality, has been translated into thinking that it is “a sin”, against “the god”, a cerebral reason, rather than an instinctive fear of it.

The Survivalist* fear everything they have to “do alone”, so if they can get away with never having sex with their partner (as they’d be alone with their partner), they’ll take that out. If they have a Bible to hold onto that they can use to push that fear as far away as they can, they’ll take it.

As the Survivalist* fear everything you do “alone” so much, they are secretly impressed by the Idealists* who do things alone easily. They do not see it that way, though, they feel the Idealists* are deliberately annoying them, as in making them nervous staying outside the group “alone”. They are like herd dogs, they want everyone in the same place, and cannot comprehend obstinate behavior as having sex without including the group into it.

As the Idealists* insist that sex is not a group activity particularly among just anybody, particularly family, the Survivalist* have learned to avoid sex entirely. As such, they regard it is “juvenile” to want to stay away from the group, “deliberately” irritating everyone and excluding others by doing so.

To the Idealists*,

if you wish, you can make any the Survivalist* into any kind of a sexual beast, if you take them into a group that shows them how to do it. They love being shown everything by the hand, and this means you could literally start a company offering deflowering virgins in a large group setting if you like and they’d pay good money for the service. As sleazy as you want to be, as long as you show them how… And, quite honestly I urge you to do it if you feel tempted. I personally do not, just saying, I get a lot of requests on adult sites, but it is simply not my thing, with other women especially. (Eewh.)

the Idealists* are also cerebral teachers, usually

the Idealists* don’t mind teaching people by offering them information, but they expect practicalities to be handled by whomever they are teaching in private. They talk, they write, they give you a graphic presentation, but they won’t offer to show you in person, by hand. This, to them, would feel abusive… However, knowing how the Survivalist* feel about it, some of us might change their minds about it. They might come to the conclusion that’s what they have to do.

Do study the Survivalist* thinking patterns a bit more, and please be warned that if you take them on, you’ll never get rid of them. The good thing is, you can train them to do whatever your little heart desires.

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