Why do the Savants* hate rejection so much they give up on a True Emotion Mirror?

The Savants* are often very well-liked people with a high self-confidence and higher than average IQ, which contributes to the feeling of being different and separated from others – why on earth would that make them accept rejection so easily and let go, when the normal reaction is to keep on trying hard, pestering, pushing, and insisting until you get results? Why not the Savants*?

How easily do they give up?

The Savants* fear rejection more than anything, perhaps, short for fearing embarrassment. They have to often rake up the courage to say something in a group setting, they may appear shy and reserved, even though their self-confidence is usually quite high. They like themselves, they value their own ideas and logic, they choose their own opinions and make up their own mind – they don’t care about opposition or being ousted for those opinions, but still, they fear something as small as rejection so much they often seem shy and insecure.

When I met my True Emotion Mirror, I felt like “I couldn’t leave him alone”. I felt like I was pestering the hell out of him, but in reality, I didn’t even put in enough effort to convince him I wanted him. His logic was: “So you think you can snap your fingers and have me, huh?” I felt like I had already pushed him over the edge in frustration of not getting the message that he wasn’t interested. He told me as much, but what he was expecting to happen was an ego-flair up, to make me chase him more. I gave up because there’s nothing I hate more than a pestering lunatic who cannot take a no for an answer. The last thing I want people to call me is “presumptuous” the bitch who thinks she’s so hot, everyone should be happy to have her attention, and if they don’t, she’ll pester him forever until she gets a confirmation of her fucking fuckability. (A method that leads to a whole heap of reluctant men to wind up married to a woman they’ll settle for rather than love.)

He, also a Savants*, figures love should be a bit of a game, but when I didn’t respond to him “hitting on me”, which he essentially took as a much more literal phrase meaning something of a “hurt her feelings so she’ll have to take notice”, and as I didn’t comprehend his meaning, I didn’t respond, and he, looking truly baffled, backed off before I realized he INTENDED his attacks to be over the top similar to a sarcastic remark, which is so over the top people listening should know to laugh. He interpreted my non-responsiveness as “disinterest” as if I was deliberately pointing out that his opinion of me means exactly shit to me. He then took back at me by faking disinterest himself to save face, perhaps, or to show me I wasn’t better than him, or who knows what.

So, both of us the Savants*, both used to an opposite method of bonding, backed off at the first signs of rejection that were miscommunication both ways, before making ourselves clear. Unfortunately, by the time I was ready to bare my soul to him to sort out the confusion, he was still in the mode of flirtation, trying to prove to me he wasn’t a snap your fingers and have me -kinda guy. I’m not used to those.

The worst thing is, that we got on great, to begin with. Then, being pushed into talking to him too seriously too early on into it, I minced my words to not sound too presumptuous, making him think I was telling him that I considered him a swine. Go figure. The rest is a soap opera scale mess of misunderstandings one doesn’t want to even think about without laughing and crying. (I thought I was pretty good with men, you know?)

Hating on rejection

the Savants* tend to have relatively high standards for people in their lives. They aren’t looking for just “company”, but they’re looking for a special connection to another person. They are highly idealistic and romantic, and they want to feel special and make another person feel special, too. When they get hit on by people who they regard being so far beneath them that they shouldn’t even try (and this happens a lot) they get a bit offended. They feel like these people can’t really see what they’re up against. (This is our narcissism, but not the fact we’re rejecting them, that’s fair, the narcissism comes in taking offense in someone trying.)

So, the more they get hit on by people they’re rejecting, the more they get tired of rejecting people, and the more they start hating people for thinking too highly of themselves. The last thing they want to people to think is that they’re unable to take a rejection or unable to consider not being good enough for someone else’s company. After all, if THEY can be too good for someone, everyone else has the same right to think that about them, too.

The same feeling goes with artistic and job applications. The more they reject other candidates, the more they have to fight of obviously underqualified people who can’t get the message, the easier they give up on a job hunt or a pursuit of attention from an authority they respect. The higher their own standards, the more they respect other’s right to keep their standards high, and even obscure. They even respect the fact that sometimes you reject perfectly good people because they happen to be a little ‘off’ for you personally, as in 99.9% right, but that missing 0.1% makes a difference, and if that’s the case, fine. Your life, your call.

This is why a guy or a girl who has 0 flaws can take a rejection so easily without it having NOTHING to do with a lack of self-confidence, competence, or lack respect for the person or company they were pursuing.

Cannot take a no for an answer

There are people who test others for how much you want this by rejecting them by default. If I’d ever do this, I’d do this to see how poorly a guy reacts to a rejection, because nobody needs a fucking hot head. I would possibly also test how much of an egotist he is, taking a rejection beautifully has turned me from a hater to a fan once, oh. The class! I can’t remember what he said exactly, but he was hitting on a friend of mine, who rejected him for some obscure reason considering he was way out of her league, to begin with, but instead of just walking away with a tail between his legs or lashing out, he paid her a genuine sounding compliment with a smile on his face, before walking away. I was instantly smitten. I’d never seen such class in my life. This was freaking 20 odd years ago and I still gasp at the thought of it. We did get to know him later on, but only as casual friends, but it was a friendship to be proud of.

On the other end of the spectrum, there are people who lose their shit when rejected, women especially, who cannot DEAL with the idea someone might not want them. Our male friends laugh at these women behind their backs, and, hell, if a new friend of mine was like this, I think I’d lose my shit laughing, and that would be the end of that friendship. You know how the brain turns into a Teflon pan, no information of a possible rejection sticks. Hilarious. Then, they go out of their length to further making fools out of themselves, chasing a guy they have 0 chances of getting.

It seems impossible for a person to know whether they’re out of their league or not

What also quickly becomes apparent about people when you get hit on often enough to start drawing charts and parallels in your mind, is that you realize people haven’t got a clue. There are people who seem to hit on everyone who is of the right gender with no discrimination at all. They’ll try as many time as it takes to get a yes. They’re really of no consequence as you can watch them go from one girl to another girl to another girl with 0 shame or concern, so whatever, you can tell him a no and he’ll walk away and won’t remember it afterwards – I was once hit on by a guy like this SIX TIMES one night as he went through his rounds completely oblivious to who he had already tried before. Me and my friend did completely crack up at the 6th round, and no, he had no recollection of having spoken to either one of us before in the scope of 2 hours or less.

Some people have an inflated sense of where they rank, and they both reject people way above their own league and pursue people out of their own league. What I’ve noticed is that the better-looking someone is, the less effort they put in pursuing you, and the reason is very, very clear. Usually, they don’t have to, and secondly, they don’t want to be that guy/girl… The hot guy/girl who thinks they’re the shit. Who think they don’t have to give way to a fire truck, because, obviously, the reason for the sirens is to try and get her laid! (Yeeeeees. That person exists.)

People who wait for a person to prove to be “interested enough” or “the one who wants them the most” are bound to get the guy or girl who is oblivious to the value of the person they’re pursuing. “You’re good enough for me. I’ll have you, because, hell, why wouldn’t YOU want me? I’m way better than you!” It is RARE that someone would be so smitten on a person, that they know they’re out of their league, that this person has no chances of truly loving them back, but they’ll pester them anyway for their love… And even rarer still to have someone with such an iron glad but non-inflated self-esteem that they would pursue someone who they worship after they reject them just to test their ego and grit. There’s like Matthew McConaughey and that’s the end of that list.

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