Why do we need to define relationship types and soulmate types?

People are different. People think differently. We, people in general, think we are much more like each other than what we actually are. When we talk about love and relationships, we unintentionally misguide people when we attempt to guide them. We can also unwittingly crush another person’s hopes for a perfect relationship when we are trying to encourage them! When we describe our own ideal relationship being not only being possible but a Must, we may sound discouraging and insisting.

From one person’s perspective, spiritual love could never include a sexual connection. For another person, a spiritual connection is not complete without it. One person doesn’t want a spiritual connection at all because the entire idea scares them. All points of views are correct, as spirituality means custom created, your individual perfection. However, when these people discuss matters of love, they all are trying to convince themselves that THEIR ideal can be met against all odds.

Crushing hopes and dreams, unintentionally coercing people into what they do not want

Many people are also prone to insisting that the person they desire should yield to their idea of perfection, no matter what that person actually wants out of a relationship. They may be convinced that their idea of perfection is everyone’s idea of perfection, and they’re just too jaded to think it’s possible to find love like that. In the process, they are crushing the hopes of the other person, who starts to think they CANNOT have what they wish for, and that what they want is a naive pipe dream.

For example, when one person wishes for a deeply romantic highly passionate sexual connection, and another person insists that spiritual, true love is non-sexual, the first type of a person despair. In the meanwhile, the other type insists that no spiritual partner would ever subject them to the horrors of sexuality, and to them, true love and the feared sex do not go together at all – not everyone loves it (yet). This, obviously, is only one of the aspects, but perhaps the most important difference in thinking.

Falling truly in love

When people fall MADLY, deeply in love, (or even deep enough to get their true hopes well up) they start doubting it very soon after they meet, within 10 minutes sometimes. They may know at first, and then lose the faith as their rational mind has time to catch up and tell them it ain’t happening. The reason why they doubt it is because they know how unrealistic some people are in love, and they start talking themselves out of it. People never fear anything quite as much as embarrassment. Nothing embarrasses people as much as finding themselves believe in the love of someone they simply cannot have.  Nothing is as easy to believe as that the most amazing person you’ve ever met doesn’t want you.

Everyone has soul connections to other people, but not everyone has experienced true love, even with an actual soulmate.

The reality is that some people HAVE found true love thinking they might have been mistaken, while others have NOT found anything akin to it, being convinced they have. The ones who know both types can easily tell the difference between the two, but the people who have only ever, past lives included, met someone suitable haven’t got a chance to tell.

I am attempting to give my readers a CLEAR idea of when their hopes are valid and when they are NOT valid. I first started pinning things down to encourage those in doubt, not as much the other way around. When you know what it is NOT, it is also easier to trust the connection when it IS real. You will find the texts confusing though if you are DESPERATELY trying to find a sign that what you want to force into being true when it simply is not. You’ll always find SOMETHING that matches the description of the love you want, obviously, so it will confuse when you hit the part where it says “this isn’t it honey” if you are not prepared to accept that answer.

I am writing all of this down on a public blog, to make it less embarrassing to find out the reality. Nobody needs to see this happen… If that is what is coming to you. Then again, those truly in love might be embarrassed just to THINK someone like the one they want MIGHT want them back. To even hope for something that amazing feels too much for some people.

Soul connections need patience sometimes

The reason why we have all grown to doubt the existence of true love is that we define the concept very differently. What feels like true love for one person, feels suffocating, abusive and shallow to another person, I kid you not. We NEED TO KNOW what other people are looking for to prepare hearing opposite views. Knowing this, we can filter out their ideals and discouraging messages when we are still looking and keep the hope alive that one day the prince or princess will come… Because there’s only one way to block them out… not completely, as true love is never lost completely, but… Still, suicide excluded, this is the worst move ever: Marrying someone wrong… And people do that all the time.

I need you to know when you can ignore what people say about your “naivety” so that you won’t throw away an amazing thing simply because “it’s too good to be true”. (When you feel it’s realistic enough that you deserve AT LEAST that much, NOT yours to have if your love is rejecting you. Each person is ONLY entitled to what, to them, feels too good to be true, never what they think they’ve well “earned”… Will become difficult when your self-confidence level is actually at the height you need to complete the heighest of the possible soul connections.)

The Personality Mirror Soul Connection Typology

I have taken it upon myself to figure out what everyone means when they talk about love. What makes them tick. I’ve taken time to describe each different type of a connection I can think of. I also summarized the most usual stories that repeat when true lovers meet for the first time. Also, how some types of lovers grow together or figure out they are in love months or years after they first met! There is more than one way to fall truly in love, and we all have our own idea of how it should happen – ideally…. And the ideal is probably because you have experienced it in your past life and want it to happen to you again.

I have also outlined some of the most common reasons why true lovers “run” from the soul connections they’ve found. It is also important to know when the running and chasing dynamic is a result of a common rejection and being a rejection junkie, nothing more.

I do write taking the spiritual aspects into account as well, the aspect that is woefully missing in most relationship resources because it is… Uncool or unscientific. So be it, I cannot help what is the reality, and the reality is that love, at its best, is a soul connection, and ignoring it causes unnecessary problems in all relationships.

I begun with True Emotion Mirrors

I want to bring up True Emotion Mirrors here because it is the most clued-in widely known love concept there is, even though it was lacking in parts. (I hate the word “concept”, but the True Emotion Mirrors think the word ‘theory’ is insulting.) I noticed that when people were talking about their True Emotion Mirrors, they talked about very different types. Not all of these types were about true love at all… Nor True Emotion Mirrors. I wanted to make sense out of it all, and if there’s anything that I learned is that these are really difficult relationships. Ideally, they should be Oh so very simple. The reason why most True Emotion Mirror relationships fail is what I’m trying to fix here: The doubt that true love might not be real… It only needs one partner to doubt it, and usually, both do… At least a little.

I am hoping that logic and knowledge will fix what logic and knowledge broke.

Here is the complete list of soul connections, and here, is the 3 main soul connection types with a handy comparison chart.

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