Why does sleeping with men on the first date work so well for some women?

Some women lose a man’s respect for them if they sleep with them on the first date (or too soon) while other women can sleep with a ton of men openly, and still be respected and admired by men. What is the difference?

Men are not stupid. They are also not insensitive or easily fooled. They’ve got animal instincts and they trust them without even thinking about it. Make no mistake about this. Men are not just after sex like many women tend to claim, not at all. They too want the full blown romance, the whole nine yards, but they are looking for someone they can respect, trust, and admire, in no particular order. When they see a woman who puts out expecting that to lead to love, without really wanting it, too drunk to know who they’re with or to care who they’re sleeping with, they are not going to respect that woman. She’s allowing herself to be abused by someone who is clearly not going to give them what they want, and even though they’re the one taking it (not all men even want to sleep with a woman knowing they’re only doing it to gain love and to prove they can be fucked) they’ll still lose their respect for the girl. It may well be, that he’s testing her: “at what stage will your self-respect rise up and tell me to stop?” If it doesn’t he’ll think “what the hell” and goes all the way… Because HE has nothing to lose.

Then there’s the other type of a girl, who loves sex and men, and treats them as her equal. She is not afraid of men or sexuality, losing her reputation or people’s approval, she does what she wants to do – and makes no big deal about it, either. She doesn’t drink too much, dresses with a certain level of demurity, she has self-respect and she makes her own decisions about things. She doesn’t sleep with men because she believes they will eventually give her love, she sleeps with men while she is waiting for the right one, enjoying the company she has, because everyone knows true love is hard to find and there’s no point trying to lie to oneself about such things.

She is also one of those girls who men wish they could have, she’s the runner, not because she’s pretending to be, but because she has standards. She may well make love to a guy who she simply likes, but she won’t give herself wholly to a man she doesn’t love wholly. That gets her respect. Her self-respect gets her respect. Because she sleeps with men without fearing judgement or losing her reputation, because she enjoys sex with men, and the company of men, not because she thinks men are rats who need to stick their dick into someone, and they’d figure that someone should be them because otherwise, they’ll stick it into someone else…

A woman who has sex because she fears that not putting out will make her lose the game WILL lose the game in more ways than one. A woman who loves sex and men will win the game – because she’s not in it for anything but what comes naturally. She sees sex as a natural thing, something to enjoy with the opposite gender, and she doesn’t link it to anything but what it is… Knowing full well that sex with the ultimate lover is something different entirely, but that would be like saying no to KitKat because truffles are not available at the moment.

A sexual man will also respect a girl who enjoys sex for enjoying sex. And it makes no difference how much you pretend to love sex if you don’t, they’ll know. Men, generally speaking, don’t enjoy sex with women who don’t enjoy it. They might have it, but it leaves a bad taste in the mouth. Some men, of course, enjoy nothing more than making a girl who doesn’t want sex give sex to him for nothing but empty talk, because the feeling of knowing someone is giving themselves to you for a fuck toy for “fake money” so to speak is quite a buzz in itself.

How can I still say I love men even though I know they treat women like that, you may wonder..? They don’t treat me like that. And I am not like those women. The times that I’ve laughed at women like this with those men… I have no more respect for this kind of behavior than they do, no matter I’m a woman. If I am a woman and can understand how idiotic that behavior is, then I can safely assume this is not beyond a woman to wrap her mind around it and not be a moron…

Why am I saying this?

You need to know it’s real. This is a cold shower. This does NOT work for you, and never will, no matter how modern times get. You will never earn respect by allowing someone to violate you and to walk all over you… The women who sleep with men without losing their respect do it for their own pleasure, not because they fear losing out on love if they don’t.

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