Why giving false hope (even by playfully flirting) to someone you would never date or love is not nice.

Imagine you’re a celebrity, gorgeous, talented, and amazing. At your fan meeting, you flirt with all the ugly girls or guys, because you think they would NEVER take your flirtation seriously, and there would be no press coverage of “you having found new love” because it is obvious your interest isn’t real, it’s just fun. You want to give these people a little bit of glamour and excitement in their lives. The next thing you know, these people are convinced you’re sad and lonely and noticed people you’re surrounded by are fake, callous, and mean, and you desperately want to be with someone like them; real and heartfelt.

Unfortunately, when you could have anyone you want, you can also make anyone pine after you for years to come. The more excuses they can come up with to the doom of your relationship, the longer they will linger in the false hope that you might love them one day. As they love you, they will give any explanation except “you were just being nice”, “you are a callous player”, or “they read too much into what you said/did.” They’ll think forever that you are some kind of a lost soul among cold people and they’re on a rescue mission, that you can’t get away from the people you’re with – you’re practically being held hostage in your own life.

They think your good looks are a curse that you’re under, even though in truth, they would have never taken a notice of you without you looking the way you do.

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