This is rare, I think, to be this way, but every now and then you come across someone who feels like they would do anything for love, no matter how degrading. A person such as this would change the way they dress, think, act, love… just so you would love them, but all they attract are people who would abuse this need of love. If there is a person who will love you for twisting yourself into a knot in order to be loved, that person is an abuser, and only after controlling and dominating you.

And what about those who do not wish to control you? There is nothing to free about a person who would do anything to be loved. A person who loves others by allowing them to be free, will not find it tempting to hang around with someone who has only one question in mind: “How do I make myself the way you want me to be?” “I want you to be who you are.” “I will be whoever you want me to be.” “I do not want you to be anything.” “Just come up with something, I would do anything for love.” “I don’t find that interesting. Also, I cannot trust you because you have no standards of your own. You are an ameba. A form sifter. You are born to deceive people. I hate that.”

However. Some people are abusers and some love to be abused and controlled. But these people at least know what they are after. They would do anything for love as long as you enjoy abusing them, so they at least eliminate the people who hate abusing them from their search. If you want to be controlled and abused, that is something that can be fulfilled. A person I have in mind doesn’t even want to be abused, she wants to be loved, but there is NOTHING ABOUT HER to love. There is only a bleeding need to be loved and accepted, at any terms at all, but she gives you not one bar to hop over. Not the smallest one. “Love me but don’t abuse me” would be good. “Love me AND abuse me” would be good. But “Love me” is a bit too vague. How is it that you want to be loved? What is involved, please?

If you don’t even know yourself what people need to do for you in order for you to feel loved, how are  you ever going to feel loved even if they did love you? What is the standard to reach? What do they have to do or be for you to love them?

It is an irony, that she feels she must do EVERYTHING in order to be loved, but she doesn’t give you ANY RULES in return. That is not inspiring. We fall in love with people who have the highest possible standards we can possibly reach. This ensures evolution. When we always raise the bar higher and higher and reach for higher goals, we become better and better. Nobody is challenged by no expectations.

How easy would it be for people who would do anything for love to become lovable?

Just as implied, the only thing you need to do is to become aware of how you do not wish to be treated by people who you love. What would make you not love others? What makes you love them? What do you like about people, what don’t you like about people? The more important the connection, the higher your standards should be in order to truly be attractive for the person that is, actually worth doing anything for.

The problem, thus, has been that a person who would do anything to be loved, is in the mindset that they would do anything for love FOR ANYBODY, anyone at all, right? A door mat, in other words. And that is the treatment she or he will receive, in return, too. So… “I would do anything for the person I authentically love and respect.” May that be your next motto, and ditch the Meat Loaf. (Even he had his standards. Apparently he was willing to do anything for love, except cut his nails, cut his hair, and wash his face… Among other things. 😉 )

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