Why slam-shut closed relationships don’t work?

If you seek commitment, try not to forget that relationships can be broken. Divorce is still a real thing. This is the reason: When you commit to someone with absolutely NO WAY OUT the only risk you’re facing now is that THIS won’t work, and you’re stuck. Then, your full focus goes into TRYING to make this work because if it’s not going to work, you’re stuck and it’s going to suck. And you’ll start noticing all the problems and flaws that you won’t be able to escape and this is going to be the rest of your life… IF you also believe that this is it, and there is no way out, there is NO MORE LIMITS. You can be as abusive and shitty toward each other as you want without risking breakup. You will also notice that you take each other for granted as NOTHING MATTERS except the fact that you’re stuck with each other and that’s all there is to it.

Rather, understand that there is ALWAYS a way out. NO relationship is so solid it couldn’t be broken – NONE of them. No soulmate bond is so strong it cannot be dismantled, and they don’t require mutual agreement to end the connection, either. (The bad ones are the worst because they’re based on pure selfishness. The less selfish the bond is, the loser the tie, anyway:) So. Now that you understand there are no bomb-proof connections; you have ANOTHER, much better risk: If this doesn’t work, I’m going to lose my partner, therefore, you better treat them better. You better be worthy of them or they’ll walk out.

If you are one of those people who thinks oh it would be lovely to be able to be in a fully abusive relationship that there’s no way out of it, you should probably make that clear with any new friend or partner before you get involved with people who believe that relationships, love, and friendship must be earned, not simply agreed to.

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