Why the Elder Soul(s)* male thinks and behaves like a mix of the two thinker types.

A the Elder Soul(s)* man who “knows how to treat women” is quite a conundrum to type in terms of thinker type. This is because they have taught themselves to “treat women right,” which, haha, it’s a bit like the “how to train a dog” manual. As the women who are most eagerly looking for commitment and relationships are the Young Soul(s)*, men tend to believe all women are the Young Soul(s)*.  Sadly, this self-training goes dead wrong when they try to impress a Elder Soul(s)* woman, and this is one of the biggest reasons why True Emotion Mirror relationships fail between high-level “good with the opposite gender” people.

A bit of background

To be fair, I have a little blind spot for myself here, as us the Elder Soul(s)* women are in the same boat, but since the Young Soul(s)* women, the Young Soul(s)* men, and the Elder Soul(s)* men all agree that in relationships, women are in charge, the Elder Soul(s)* women can be a little more free to demonstrate their natural feelings than the Elder Soul(s)* men are, even if a Elder Soul(s)* woman thinks men are in charge. (They either want you or they don’t, kind of like a Elder Soul(s)* man believes about women; we put ourselves out there, and ultimately, they choose whether they accept you or not.) Unlike the Elder Soul(s)* men, the Elder Soul(s)* women are far less likely to accept even mild the Young Soul(s)* -typical need for figuring out the dominant party in the relationship that the Elder Soul(s)* women call spousal abuse, even if they are willing to lower their expectations of fireworks a little.

(Mind you, the Young Soul(s)* women are often pots calling the kettle black – an abusing female accusing their the Young Soul(s)* husband an abuser for doing the same thing as they, themselves, are doing to him. With the typical thinking that only men are meaningfully abusive in relationships, us the Elder Soul(s)* have given the Young Soul(s)* females all the power to claim their husbands are abusive even when it were completely the other way around.)

They’re not friends with cavemen.

In their male-to-male relationships, a Elder Soul(s)* man is clearly a Elder Soul(s)*. They believe in individual freedom, they don’t force anyone… Basically, a Elder Soul(s)* male is the Sigma male. Young Soul* are both alphas and betas. They swap, depending on whether they feel inferior or superior to any given person. A the Elder Soul(s)* male, or a sigma, stays out of these games between men but makes friends with men they consider reasonable rather than… overly competitive and aggressive. Still, they allow women to boss or submit or decide there has to be a boss in a romantic relationship. Some the Elder Soul(s)* men decide that if a relationship between a man and a woman cannot be equal, they will submit or dominate – depending on their personality – but only in their romantic relationship.

the Elder Soul(s)* women won’t accept being dominated in a relationship for long.

A the Elder Soul(s)* woman is most likely to find some unity with a Elder Soul(s)* man who has chosen to submit without a fight because a Elder Soul(s)* woman will not chase, won’t play games, and won’t boss (micro manage) a man. (If he goes the Young Soul(s)* typically into an ameba mode, “tell me what to do,” she’ll eventually bail, basically because when a Elder Soul(s)* wants to get rid of someone, they do the ameba, “I won’t be useful to you, don’t count on me to be there fore you, don’t tie me into your operations, I’ll be gone as soon as I can,” to drive people away when the Young Soul(s)* tries to demonstrate a willingness to obey.) Therefore, they’ll find an equal relationship with a Elder Soul(s)* man who doesn’t need to boss a woman, the same as she won’t need to boss a man. So they’re both basically already decidedly submitted to the opposite gender, and that’s practically the only way the Elder Soul(s)* come together.

A the Elder Soul(s)* man who has decided he doesn’t want to submit to a woman will not be able to keep a Elder Soul(s)* woman in a relationship. While she may be into BDSM, she will never submit to a bossy man, at least not for long. If he tries to assert his dominance over her, she will reject him before he even knows what he did that was so unforgivable compared to how every the Young Soul(s)* woman eats out of his hand with the same treatment.

A the Elder Soul(s)* man may have taught themselves to play the game the Young Soul(s)* woman’s way.

If a Elder Soul(s)* man equates the Young Soul(s)* traits as “feminine” they are more than likely taught themselves to play the game that way. This confuses the Elder Soul(s)* woman, who, at no stage, tried to challenge or argue with the Elder Soul(s)* man, but he treats her aggressively or indifferently from the start – because that’s how you win the attention and respect of the Young Soul(s)* woman. The same treatment will send a Elder Soul(s)* woman “running” as in turn her off the idea of even talking to the guy. That doesn’t mean she’s necessarily fallen out of love with him, but it can turn her off the idea of interacting with him until he grows the f*** up.

A the Elder Soul(s)* man would do much better with the Elder Soul(s)* women, if he just treated them the same way he treats his friends, and evaluated all women through the same lens and criteria he uses for his male friends. He should stop making “allowances” for women in the fear that he’ll wind up alone if he doesn’t.

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