Why would a woman pretend they don’t love you/care for you even though they believe you’re their True Emotion Mirror?

Short answer: Pride and believing you don’t care. The long answer is a little… Longer.

Not wanting to throw themselves at you (like those other women.)

True Emotion Mirrors have a natural respect for each other. You both see each other as a perfect human being, but you don’t necessarily see yourselves as such. Therefore, you’re both more than willing to accept your counterpart doesn’t think that highly of you, no matter how incomprehensible it may feel to you – this goes both ways, even though I’m writing this for men about women. WOMEN CAN, for the love of God, think themselves not worthy of their man, no matter how many entitled not-worth-their-own-bullshit women you have to fight off you every single time you go out for a drink. How other women see you have NO BEARING as to how your True Emotion Mirror sees you. Those other women ARE NOT the same as your True Emotion Mirror. They don’t think about you in the same terms.

Therefore, even though every drunkard bitch from here to Timbuktu would find it quite acceptable to throw themselves at your feet, your True Emotion Mirror wouldn’t necessarily want you to see them in that humiliating light and they’ll keep up a certain facade in that regard, even in the case they’d sleep with you in a heartbeat if you asked them to.

She wouldn’t want you to feel ashamed of your (future) wife and her behavior.

Some will demand a level of respect from you so they know you see them differently to other women, too. But the one thing that makes much of the difference is pride – they wouldn’t want you to be ashamed of being married to them, and that can mean different things to different women. They don’t want to act like the kind of woman they’d be ashamed of being in front of you and being married to you. (Mind you, that may also include being a prude, as much as it may be being a slut – it depends largely on your own true values, even though there might be miscommunications in play in there.)

They don’t want to manipulate you by an emotional outburst.

Smart women know how easily men cave in front of a crying woman. No matter what, they don’t want to manipulate you into a relationship. They want true love at the end of the day, rather than just some handsome, nice guy feeling sorry for them. (She’s better than being married to a guy feeling sorry for her, isn’t she?) Therefore, she doesn’t want to throw some emotional tantrum at you to sway your behavior out of pity. She wants to make sure it is your love that drives you to her.

They also know that you are a nice guy. They know how easily a nice guy gets guilt-tripped into a relationship. The last thing they want to do is to lock you in. You don’t do that with people you love.

Proud women don’t propose nor proposition themselves.

There are some traditions proud women still honor – and for a large part, that is the male initiative. Women who love men also love their masculinity, and a huge part of it is HIS CHOICE. She can say yes or no, but he has to offer her a chance to choose.

Lower class women don’t seem to mind putting a ball and chain on a man’s leg and making his decisions for him, but higher class women just don’t do that. You have to offer your leg, sir. 😀 Or finger. A collar if you will, but she won’t chase you down the isle. And if you don’t choose her, she’ll pretend she’s OK with it, so you don’t have to feel bad about not wanting her – it’s not your fault she fails to please you.

Speaking of collars and chains.

Speaking of collars… Submission and dominance… Many women do still want male dominance. It feels good to be forced to do the exact thing you want to do, right? It is possible you’ll have to explain to her (maybe in spirit) that men love being dominated in relationships, too. It’s entirely possible your woman doesn’t know you’d love to please her, too, which is why she doesn’t give you instructions of how to do it. You may have to teach her (even in spirit, telepathically) that she just has to learn to be more selfish and demand things.

Think of this: It’s possible she wants to submit to you sexually, while dominate you in a relationship, and you may want the same thing but you’ve never thought to say so. You know: “Just about had it with your shopping sprees, hun, it’s time for my fun, now.” ** <3 **

Everyone needs encouragement.

Remember True Emotion Mirrors are their natural equals. Typically, people have a certain inferiority complex however, which makes it so that no matter how many women you have, and no matter how easily she tackles a next one in line, when it comes to you, her True Emotion Mirror, she isn’t quite as self-confident as that… And sadly, neither are you.

Unfortunately, sometimes, we take our insecurities out on the last person we should; the True Emotion Mirror, whom, to us, looks bullet proof. Someone who has 0 reason to feel insecure about anything. You see her as a goddess incarnated, but you, in her eyes, seem like a god. Still, you both see yourself as the most ordinary thing ever – you see the same god danmed same image in the mirror every god damned day and think your own common thoughts every day of the week. Mundane. Everyday. Constant.

No matter if you’re Elon Musk, to you, you’ve ALWAYS been Elon Musk. Johnny Depp has always been in Johnny Depp’s head, and Brad Pitt has never been anything but Brad Pitt. Your woman has always been herself. BOOOORING. No matter what shine you see her through, to herself, she’s as mundane as women come. Every. Single. Day. She might have moments of clarity as do you, but when she stops thinking about it and focusses on you, she sees a god through the eyes of the most mundane bitch ever walked the Earth. She needs encouragement, just like you do. The difference is, now you should kinda get it. She might not have read this blog. 😀

She may fear she’ll say the wrong thing.

“And then I go and spoil it all by saying something stupid like ‘I love you’.” Right?

True Emotion Mirrors tend to feel like whatever they say will spell out damned clearly: “I fucking adore you, I love you, you are the most handsome thing I’ve ever seen in my life, I think you’re an amazing person and I want to have your babies!! All of your babies. All babies.” They say “hi” but feel like they just proposed marriage and a house full of children and who knows what to you.

So, your True Emotion Mirror might not be saying much. She might not be saying much at all.

Until she writes you a weird confessional love letter because she thinks she can consider her words a little more carefully on her own but then she comes off like… well, a bit weird considering YOU don’t see yourself as a romance novel hero.

All the terrible things she’s done in the past.

At some stage she might be hit with a bout of regret about everything she’s done and been in the past. What is well good enough for a regular guy, isn’t good enough for you – in her opinion. All the bravado – “I don’t care what anyone thinks” can suddenly wash away and be left with “fuck I’m a terrible person and you deserve better than this.”

Maybe she’s slept around a bit too much, drunk, done drugs, had a stint in the clink or narrowly missed one, who knows… And now, phew. Eww. She feels no longer exciting and sexy for it, but slimy and grimy like a turd.

I’d suggest this happens after sex or perhaps a love confession.

Breathe. You don’t want to join her disgust on a knee jerk reaction.

Nobody is like this. Nobody.

You’re wrong.

I’m not saying these are perfect people – mind the previous chapter – they’re just perfect for you. And sure, they come with their issues, they have their issues, she has her issues, she’s not perfect, you’re not perfect, your love is perfect.

And I don’t care if you married someone else, and have 12 kids with someone else… Made a world-wide public fucking scandal over fucking some other bitch… *Grrr* This woman is still the one.

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