Why your “Don’t want” energy attracts what you don’t want

“The last thing I want is to wind up like my parents.” Right? Or… “The last thing I want is to wind up doing….” And, what you see is that the only opportunities available to you are exactly this. Why?

People who you don’t want can have a very strong wish to prove you wrong. “I will teach you what you don’t want is what you do want because you always think about my kind.”

I have a “fear” of women who cling onto others due to their belief that “never giving up on someone” is the height of love, and the more aware of this group of women I’ve become, the more of them I am attracting into my soul-companions. I am constantly surrounded by them, and I also fear women who simply stubbornly refuse to give up, because the one thing they want is to prove you wrong. Now, I am surrounded by women who refuse to give up on me and prove me wrong about me being a bisexual or lesbian rather than a polyandrist, and that, in turn, blocks the men I actually want out of my reach.

Now, a lot of men probably have a fear of these exact same women, and as they fear them, they send out a signal to them “I am thinking about you constantly, please come and get me”. The women think you are afraid of closeness and intimacy, when, in fact, you are only afraid of closeness and intimacy With This Particular Type. Another Pseudo (false) True Emotion Mirror.

So… As The Law of The Truest Wish gurus state; focus on what you want instead of what you don’t want. This is tricky, because a part of us LOVES to reject people. There’s this pleasurable feeling of power when you see someone clinging onto you and you can just keep knocking them back over and over knowing they will come back for more no matter what – and the power is completely in your corner because you know that if you succeed in knocking them back, you’ll lose nothing, but you still get attracted to the power you feel when you are serving them a rejection after a rejection.

Clearly, sounds like a “True Emotion Mirror”? No. Very different thing that I am not going to get into right now.

So, how to stop yourself from attracting this type of a connection or adding another bonus to it; to force this type of a person watch as you fall in love with someone else – truly. (Unfortunately, I’m kind of feeling too intimately involved with these women as it is, so I feel like I want them out before I can allow someone else in, but I must find another solution because they are not budging.) Try and enjoy that idea, to find someone who you truly want and then have her (or him) around All The Time, driving your Don’t Wants crazy. 😀

A little more mature approach is to tell yourself this: “if I can’t find the kind of a woman/man I want soon, I will settle for less.” Nobody wants to be “the less”.

Fully mature way to deal with this is to allow these people in as your friends, and trust that you will not accidentally wind up in a relationship with someone you don’t want, as you can always say no, right?

This is also related to the need to “look for love” because you’re trying to avoid winding up in a lackluster relationship as you are looking for the right one. So you’re constantly feeling dodgy and focussed on what you don’t want to settle on… right? So to combat this… Simply date boring people if that is happening, but don’t think like that’s the only thing you have waiting for you. Keep your mind alert on the positive, who it is that you are looking for, while all these other people are clinging onto you like you were their last straw.

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