The purpose of this post:

• To help you evaluate the meaning of your relationships
• Stop the need of listening to intuition when a conscious goal is elsewhere
• Emphasis the importance of authenticity and self-acceptance

I’ve always been intuitive and worked through my intuition more than anything, believing that intuition is rarely wrong. Every life decision I make is based on my intuition rather than logic. It is a good approach if you have never let people who have different values and goals in life close to you, but if you have accepted the wrong type of people into your circle of loved ones, even allowed people to believe you love them when you didn’t, they may “look out for you” in ways that will ruin your life.

Good intentions pave the way to Hell

These are well-meaning people. They love you, and they want what is best for you, but they don’t always know what you want or why you would want what you want, so they protect you from it. They also may have weird (non-functional) ideas on how you get what you want if they know what you want, or that, the next best option should be well enough. The more they care for you, the stronger their influence on your intuition is going to be.

They can spiritually, that you pick up through your intuition, stop you from taking the necessary steps to get what you want because they may feel you shouldn’t “lower yourself” to something, when in fact, the stuff that you would “lower yourself” for is really something you love doing, for instance, someone who believes good jobs are white-collar, wouldn’t want you to “lower yourself” to do gardening for a paycheck, so intuitively, you stop yourself from doing gardening, but can’t really motivate yourself for anything else, either, because your OWN instinct draws you towards gardening even if you try to appease everyone and seek jobs in business management.

The reverse works, too, if the people who look out for you feel that gardening is a much nicer, relaxing job than business management, they will always push you towards the easier option and offer no emotional support nor encouragement for your goals in business.

Protecting heterosexual women from heterosexual sex is one of those good intentions…

One of the most painful situations is when you fall in love with someone, but your instinct tells you to “Not go there”, not because what was waiting for you wasn’t exactly what you wanted, but because spiritually, you are connected to people who think you just don’t know what you were doing (he/she wants sex!! God almighty, they want sex from you and you don’t realize!), and tell you to be cautious. Not knowing what it is that your instinct tells you to be careful of because even if you knew exactly what it was you were after (sex and passionate love), you know there is “a danger” or a drawback that you can’t pinpoint, do you stop yourself from following your heart.

Both mothers and fathers tend to protect their daughters from the horrors of straight sex – even when their daughter is 100% heterosexual. This is because most women are bisexual and their sexuality tends to be linked to the approval of other women, but the same doesn’t apply to purely heterosexual women.

Karmic bonds created through virtuous pursuits

We all want to do the right thing, and sometimes dishonesty and pretense of love are seen as the right thing to do – often, in fact. Political correctness, the grand majority of religious virtues, they all base on dishonesty, hypocrisy, and pretense of love, rather than the real thing. We also love the idea of changing people into images of ourselves. This is because we believe we, ourselves, are the correct model of a human being. In however small ways we attempt to make people think the way we do and believe the things we believe. I have been doing that for eons in some way, thinking I’ll do people a favor, but now… I realize my ideals are only my ideals, and other people’s ideals belong to their ideology, not mine.

However, karmic bonds are created when unnatural friends make an alliance. There is always a payoff, though, for instance, making friends with someone who others would reject makes you feel holier than the others, more virtuous than others, so the payoff of that friendship is a higher status among people who share your beliefs… Or at least feel they should.

Ego-serving friendships

In that way, we feed our own ego by “being virtuous”, when in fact, we do nothing but abuse another person with our belief that they are unlovable or in need of our approval and friendship… Because we believe we’re better than them. When we strongly believe we are better than them, but don’t want to say as much, or admit it to ourselves that we feel that way we give them the vibe that “they are better than me, and therefore I must thrive to become like them”, even though neither notion would actually be true.

Here’s the downside, though. When you make friends with people you don’t respect, they will think you love them. You’ve made every effort to give them that impression because that was required by politeness or religious virtue. After receiving your kindness for a time, they will, eventually, want to return the favor; warts and all, they never learned to love the way you are, or the way you live any more than you will learn to love theirs, so it is only a matter of time once the tables are turned and they will start educating you on how to live life the better way and become like them instead.

Now, they are “the voice inside your head” telling you how to live your life.

Even in the best of cases

Sometimes, your soulmate simply doesn’t know what they are talking about. They may be an early level True Emotion Mirror, but because you’ve never yet reached the Mature State together, you haven’t synced your talents yet. They may be a master in music, while you are just a fan, or a dabbler in spirituality when you are the master, but nonetheless, your love for each other will guide you the wrong way if the student attempts to guide the master.

Someone you trust can be certain of the reality being the way that they believe that it is, and you can pick up on their opinion that this is a problem or not safe or…. not the right time or whatever, and you’ll stop yourself from doing what you’d otherwise do, or make yourself do something you’d never normally do; marry someone you don’t really want is a popular mistake made under the guidance of loving people with different values and needs.

The cure for this is to start, quietly to readjust your inner circle. If you make a huge noise about it as I did, you’ll alert people to come and rescue you again from foolishness. You don’t want that. Allow friendships to die that you no longer want, no fuss, no mess, and get closer to people who you truly love and respect and whose opinion is so important to you that you will rather make a mistake under their guidance than go about your life alone.

Whatever you need, sometimes, you have to grit your teeth and FORCE the matter, rather than wait for things to align on their own… When to do what is a bigger problem.

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