You can’t ask someone to change their feelings… How they feel about what is going on.

Imagine being tied down in a dungeon and being tortured. The torturer is angry at you for not enjoying it. This is no BDSM dungeon either; it’s not like your limits are being respected. This is a torture chamber, but the torturer thinks this should be fun for you, too, considering he’s enjoying it so much.

You cannot COMMAND another person to feel something different. You can make them suppress their feelings, but you can’t invite a feeling that they don’t feel. “Want me! I want you, you need to want me back!” is not a valid command. “I enjoy this; you have to enjoy this; why can’t you just enjoy this?!” “Be happy!”

No. If they don’t enjoy you, love you, trust you… It’s you that is the problem, not them. If someone cannot make you happy, it’s hardly your fault. If you can’t trust someone, it’s not you that is the problem; it’s them. EVEN IF there’s nobody you can trust, it’s not you, it’s them. Easy to put it down to someone else’s trust issues, but if you can’t trust your feelings, what can you trust?

Someone telling you that “deep down” you love them… OMG. What is the point of being around someone who loves you so “deep down” they don’t even know it? 😀 If that was even possible. I do not believe it possible to “trust someone” without feeling it or “love someone” without being aware of that. But isn’t it such a convenient belief for a rapist to insist you want it too, an abuser to insist you love them without being aware of it, and a manipulator to say you must trust them even though you don’t?

I’m not really saying that every person who thinks they’re worthy of your love or trust are a manipulator; it’s just that they may be so unempathic that they don’t realize you don’t feel what they feel. That you don’t get happy the same way they get happy. Maybe they’re narcissistic enough NOT to BELIEVE they are not everybody’s idea of perfection, even if 99% of people believed they were perfect.

This goes for your spirit connections, too. If a spirit tells you something and you can’t trust them… You’re not the problem. The spirit guide is not… In the right head, really. Just because someone doesn’t have their body with them just now doesn’t mean they’re infallible and 100% reliable.

Don’t tell your feelings are wrong. Your situation is wrong.

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