You don’t have to honour monogamy

If I could rewrite some rules of relationships, I’d eradicate the idea of monogamy off the face of the planet. Also, mandated loyalty, fidelity, stuff that is kind of forced, and based on the idea that if you don’t FORCE yourself to not sleep with other people, you’ll just wind up doing it without any means to stop yourself… If that’s how you feel, you should sleep with everything with a pulse until you stop feeling that way.

The thing is, relationships that are based on a decision to stay faithful to someone are basically built to MIMIC NATURAL fidelity. I’m not saying that people are NOT faithful to even just one person, or that they’re not capable of loyalty, or that monogamy would be an impossible goal, I’m saying that this putting a band-aid on a gaping wound -approach to relationship problems has got to come to an end. If you can’t keep someone faithful, they’re not bloody well yours, are they? If you can’t stay faithful to someone, you’re not truly theirs, either.

Break the rules in your end.

You cannot decide for other people how they will live their lives, but you can decide for yourself: you don’t need to play by other people’s rules if you don’t believe in them. However, here are a couple of new rules: Never lie about yourself or another person to get what you want. Lies are the first enemy of true love, as true is the opposite of a lie, isn’t it? Lies will fuck everything up.

You don’t have to tell everything to everyone, but do not LIE about anything. Don’t tell if you don’t want to, but don’t replace it with a lie about yourself or another person hoping you’ll be better off in the end… You won’t be, and neither will the other person.

You cannot find true love by lying, that should be a given.

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