You have to raise your children so you can trust them to handle themselves when they grow up.

There is a weird spiritual phenomenon that is there to protect us from mind control. It prevents a person from doing anything that an outside force is trying to make them do – even if it is for their own protection or to help someone else. If another entity tries to push another into doing something, the mind shuts down and won’t do a thing, or they’ll do SOMETHING ELSE, without even thinking about the very thing they were supposed to do.

A good, rather harmless example, is a situation where parents have coached a child to give a show-and-tell or a presentation at school. It’s all rehearsed, and the kid should know the speech inside out. But the parents still don’t trust the child to remember it, excitedly, they follow the child into the classroom in spirit, and try and remind him or her of the first words of the speech. The child cannot remember. Not a word. They haven’t the foggiest idea how the speech started.

The teacher offers help: “Just start somewhere, dear, it’ll come to you.”

So, the kid follows instructions and starts from a random spot. The parents, in spirit, throw their hands in the air in frustration; the kid can’t do anything right; how can he forget something we rehearsed for hours?! And as soon as the parents give up on him, the start of the speech returns to him.

“Oh yes! Now I remember. Tran stations in the US….”

If he adds too many sentences to reaffirm his remembering, the parents get excited again, and he’ll lose the sentence again.

I swear you cannot remember your own name if someone worries that you can’t.

Therefore… You have to trust your children to handle themselves. You have to trust them with their own children, too.

It is up to you to raise them so that you don’t need to worry about them so much you’ll follow them around wherever they go in the world, unable to trust them to know their ass from their elbow or to say no to a guy who wants sex from her even when she doesn’t want to.

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