You have to tell yourself the truth – you’re the only one you can fully trust to do so.

There are people who lie to themselves. A lot of them. There are also people who lie to others about how they feel about that other… Most people do unless they’re willing to LIVE with their words. People can tell you they love you or care about you, “of course,” but you cannot trust words like that if the action is different. Many people make promises on OTHER people’s behalf because they, themselves, are not willing to live with the consequences of confessing to love you. “Well, I may not be interested in a relationship right now, but you know what, I’m sure you’ll find some lucky guy…” They were saying, “I’m not interested in dating you – I don’t see myself falling in love with you… Ever.”

Woke feminists lie more than anybody else in the world, in both negative and positive. “You’re great – they’re shit,” you know? Both sentiments are absolute garbage when generalized to all women and all men… Or all black people and all white people.

Most people don’t want to say to your face that they think you’re pathetic.

I’m not saying you’re pathetic, either. I’m just saying that most people don’t really want to tell another person there’s something seriously unlikeable about them. They dodge the question; they’ll even lie to your face about how great you are, how pretty, good-looking, smart – but when you ask if they’d date you, they go, “Nooooo, I have this thing…”

Even if they promise to tell you the truth, they more than likely won’t if it’s negative or would make them seem unlikeable.

People love being liked. And likable people don’t say nasty things, even if they think it.

You have to be aware that people like being liked. And the best way to be liked by people is to see the positives in others and express those positives. It doesn’t mean they lie about the positives; most people are more than willing to give you positive feedback, but they won’t tell you the negatives they’re thinking… Not because they want to misguide you but because they don’t want the fallout of being the unlikeable person who told you that truth.

An unlikeable person, however, does it the opposite way around: They won’t tell you anything positive (because it’s fake) but don’t hesitate for a second to give you negative feedback – and blow it out of proportion for you, too. I guess the logic is that you’ll stand up for yourself and scream, “That’s just not true! I’m not like that!” even when they get it right because they feel “what people say about you” is the important part, not what’s real. In truth, sometimes they get it right, and a humble person knows that… And that their feedback is set to negative only.

When the negative words finally come out, he/she is already SO TIRED OF YOU that they don’t care if they’re unlikeable to you.

When someone finally tells you the negative stuff, “You’re just a fat bitch who lives in a god damned fantasy world” (or similar), they’re already so fed up with you and your BS that they don’t care if you don’t like them. They’re also so fed up that they don’t care if everyone who can’t see what they see about you will side with you. THEY have lost their worth and meaning.

They also have enough ammo against you (your moral code) that they can defend their view on you in front of people they consider to have the moral high ground here. They’re not “just jealous” or “afraid of losing you” at this point, in fact, the more likely motivation that they are not afraid of losing you or worried that what you tell their friends about this fight would change their stance in the eyes of people who respect them as a good person.

Your moral code is what matters. That’s what you’ll ultimately get judged by.

People will forgive you for being fat, ugly, dumb, and boring, but what they won’t forgive you is for being a bad person. Morally corrupt.

Morals, by the way, is the quality of a person that makes them do the right thing by others to the best of their ability even when nobody is looking and they know they likely wouldn’t be caught if they took advantage of a situation they’re in, putting someone else in unfair disadvantage. Many unlikeable people see morality in some very narrow way: “I go to church on Sundays – I’m moral” then they spend a week fucking married men, drinking in front of their kids, and drunk driving with the kids in the car, but since they confess to their priest on Sunday, they think they’re good, moral person; even better than others. Loved by Jesus.

There are also horrible people who think that because they are loved BY JESUS, that gives them the right to be horrible. Logic being that the fact Jesus loves them makes them friends with the boss and thus untouchable. I kid you not. It has to be some kind of a different breed of a mental disorder, but I digress.

While Jesus may love a person of bad morals – even though that shit makes him cry – the rest of us are not quite that forgiving. And THAT is what people will eventually turn on you for… And when they find you morally corrupt, they’ll also tell you they think you’re fat and ugly.

Be harder on yourself than others will ever be.

The only way you can avoid sliding down the slippery slope of self-forgiveness all the way to Hyi Vittu¹ is to be harder on yourself than anybody else would be. Tell yourself the truth, because nobody else cares if you drop your standards – they can move on and find someone who hasn’t. If you let yourself go like that, EVENTUALLY you will drop your standards so low that nobody cares about you anymore. The only way you’ll be safe from your own self, is to be HONEST with yourself, and know what bad traits your friends have to tolerate and love about you (there will be some – stuff that even though it’s bad it’s good, as there’s nothing wrong in its right place) and what you will need to hold yourself accountable for.

And yes. Your True Emotion Mirrors and Precious Soulmates will love you when nobody else will, but don’t lie to yourself about who those people actually are.

1. The opposite of Nirvana, a spiritual space I named where despicable, horrible people bathe in human excrement taking pride in their humiliation; how they’re loved despite being horrible, despicable, shit-bathing liars, cheaters, back stabbers… you name vice and they indulge in it. ↩

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