Being a celebrity has a lot of perks, but there’s also the downsides. One of them is that celebrities are exciting. Knowing whether someone is simply star-struck or in love with you must be difficult. The fact you’re a celebrity can blind people from the fact they don’t necessarily love you… Just the stardom. It can be simply too tempting to get serious with a celebrity, to see if true love might ignite… Or simply lose focus on love completely and focus on the luxurious setting for the romance. People are people.
It is perhaps difficult to understand from your perspective how flattering it must be to get any attention from a celebrity. The bigger the star, the more tempting it would be to blind oneself from little issues like missing love. It’s a fairytale romance minus love. You shouldn’t take it personally but learn to notice the signs of love that are superficial.
First of all, stop accepting “realistic” expectations for the right expectations.
You have potentially millions of fans. It is entirely realistic to assume that among those millions, one or two would be perfect for you, don’t you think?
I would can the advice of not dating your fans – although I understand where that advice comes from, it is not great advice. Your True Emotion Mirror, your ultimate soulmate, that is, has got to be one of your fans. The more famous you are, the less likely it is that your TrEmoR does not consider themselves some level of a fan.
Dating fans is a bad idea when the fans are completely star-struck and blinded to who you are, and who are so hyped about even the sight of you that they cannot truly see the true you. Your True Emotion Mirror, however, although they won’t be immune to your stardom either, and will definitely wonder whether they’re star-struck or in love with you, won’t be completely blinded by your stardom. They’ll get used to it fast, too. Your True Emotion Mirror is your natural equal, even if they are not technically anywhere near your status.
It is not normal for a person in love with you to be constantly impressed by you.
Your True Emotion Mirror, your true soulmate that is, will be impressed by your success, yes. What they won’t be, however, is overly excited about it. They’re used to you. They might be excited to find YOU again, but your success is familiar to them – this is not your first rodeo. They know you’re amazing, and they’re the second most accustomed to the sight of you – second only to you.
Where everyone else is gasping, your True Emotion Mirror takes your success as a bit of a given. They may even push you further if they know you usually reach even higher heights. They may know that they’re the missing factor in your success, too.
It is not normal for a your soul-bond lover to be working for you for long.
The Universe may use business and work as a means to get you back together, but it is not normal for your true lover to want to “pay you” for the relationship by attempting to work for you all the time.
When I say “attempting to work” I really mean exactly that. I have coined a concept of “staff spouse” which means a person who KNOWS they’re not right for you but they’re trying to compensate for the lack of chemistry by being useful to you. They may also think you’re impractical and NEED their help and assistance, when you feel the stuff they do really belongs to a paid staff member.
Your True Emotion Mirror is your intellectual and creative equal. You will easily work together, but they shouldn’t be working FOR YOU unless it’s for some practical reason like taxation where their true relationship with you is your true equal and YOU feel that to be true, rather than a nice idealistic sentiment.
They flatter the wrong things about you.
Your True Emotion Mirror is very good at flattering the things about you that you’re the most proud of because their value system is the same as yours. The wrong lover will flatter the wrong things and focus on the wrong things. Their focus may be very much on the assets, stuff and status. They may even insult you assuming you’re one way when truly you’re different way. You may feel “how could they think that about me” when they’re trying to pay you a compliment.
A person who is rather star-struck than in love with you will try to find reasons to love you, but they’re not really hitting the mark.
The Modern and the Timeless.
The Timeless thinker and Modern thinker often wind up together in all areas of life. The reason being that their way of thinking is SO DIFFERENT than they take rejection for a come on. Where the Timeless tries to discourage, they wind up exciting and so forth. A Timeless, who loves people for their strenghts may try to turn the Modern off themselves by pointing out their weaknesses. This, to a Modern is basically a proposal: “I need you, you see I’m no good without you…”
The Modern and Timeless pairing is inherently incompatible. The Modern tries to become a new parent while the Timeless is wishing for a sexy romance that will last a lifetime.
Nature leads us to the right one by pure animal lust.
Sure, you’ve had some fleeting romances based on lust before, maybe, but nature leads us to the right one by lasting animalistic lust. While lust maybe there for a time when it isn’t love, one thing is certain: if lust isn’t there (for good), it isn’t love at all.
Find the source of the uncomfortable thought.
When you’re trying to figure out if your new potential partner is star-struck or in love with you, it is a very good idea to dig into the source of the uncomfortable thought. It is, in fact a good idea in all situations. Whenever you find yourself unwilling or embarrassed to think about something, treat it like the X that marks the spot on a treasure map. That’s where you dig.
True love feels exciting but comfortable. Fake love feels uncomfortable, forced… and boring.
