When I ask you all to seek your authentic lifestyle, it pays to know that the right way to do it is the way that feels forbidden but tempting. The same feeling that you got as a child when mom told you to wait until after dinner to have sweets, but you just couldn’t resist. Elder Souls are often tempted by intellectual challenges and their sexual desires. Young Souls, however, want to feel safe and cared for, preferably close to their birth family or their spouse’s family.
Question one: How much care do you want?
How much care do you feel you want? Not need. Want. This is about how much you wish you were allowed rather than how little care you can get by with in a pinch. Who do you want to be by your side at all times, mother and father? (In-laws count.) Siblings, cousins? Friends? Spouse? Lover? Nobody?
Question Two: How important is sex to you?
Now, the second most burning question is this one: How important is sex to you? Again, the truthful answer ranges from “I’d rather never have it” to “I want it all the time and I need it sizzling hot!” Your answer is somewhere on that scale, and whatever feels like you’re getting away with something naughty is the right answer: “Never have it? Oh man, really?” To “All the time until the day I die, for real?!”
Question Three: If everybody did what you want to do…?
This is not so much a question as it is a fine-tuner. Do you think that the thing you want and feel like getting away with is something you can’t have because if everyone did it, society would grumble? For example, closeted homosexuals may fear that EVERYBODY feels the same as they do, and if everyone acted on their selfish impulse to gay marry, society as we know it would grumble. Let me assure you; not everybody wants what you want. Heterosexuality is a real thing, too, you know? There are women in this world who would not marry another woman even if it were their only option. Don’t worry about your orientation being the secret desire of everyone around you; it is not. You’re free to grab it.
Question Four: How do you wish to live?
Go wild. It doesn’t have to be this lifetime. You can pre-map your future lifetime for yourself while you’re at it. If you could set yourself up for a dream life from your next lifetime, what would you have in place? This question is like “what do you REALLY want,” meaning this: People work out and sacrifice their lives to compete over a trophy. However, if you’d give them that trophy as a certain thing, they wouldn’t want it. The win means more than the prize. Still, if I handed someone a brand new smartphone for free, everybody would accept it. So. What is your smartphone lifestyle, this lifetime and/or the next? What is the kind of lifestyle you gut-level think everyone would accept if given for free?
