When we Elder Souls talk about “who we are,” as our identities, the Young Souls tend to feel a little scared and confused. “What do I want to be? Strong? Intelligent? Beautiful? Radical?” None of that means anything to a Young Soul. Young Soul wants to be good enough not to be abandoned. Therefore, with a strong emphasis on identity, individuality, and diversity, a Young Soul can feel like they need to overdo it, try SUPER HARD to be LGBTQx100. If we like rock stars, the Young Souls want to rock it out so much they fall off the rails. Should we admire 50s married couples, they’d be… Probably OK, but possibly Martha-Stuardting things a bit too much. Whatever we admire, Young Souls will overdo, just to feel like they won’t be cast out to survive on their own.
Therefore, one thing a person can want to be is to be safe and cared for. To be accepted into a community that will keep them safe.
Now, for the rest of us, the question is a little harder. Largely sexuality-related. Both needs must be accounted for in society.
First, it is important to know that it is OK to want to be safe. We all do, in fact.
Everybody wants to be safe. However, where a Child Soul is safe is a very different setting than is available for an Elder. An Elder can safely go where Child Souls cannot. They have more life experience, they read situations more effectively and correctly, they know what situations to avoid and what they can and cannot handle as an individual. A Child Soul is still figuring that stuff out. And when they get overwhelmed and scared, fighting for their own survival, they tend to react in a way that makes the Elders terrified.
We all want a safe environment to live and play. Our toys can get bigger (and sexier), but we all want that same base-level safety. The way we get there differs by Soul Age, but we should certainly leave the thinking to the Elders. And if you’re an Elder, don’t worry, the kiddos will appreciate it, rather than feel robbed of their freedoms.
What do you want to be?
What you want to be is not really a choice, per se. It’s a feeling. I want to emphasize this so the Child Souls don’t take this as an art assignment. Your choice will not be graded like we were in school. A Young Soul’s answer is simple: “I want to be safe,” and that’s pretty much all there is to it. It is up to us Elders to tell them where to be, where to stay, what to do, so that we trust they both will be safe and we will agree to keep them safe. “These are the rules, don’t run to the road,” basically.
Children in adult bodies, Young Souls are very capable. Children are capable of survival, yes. They CAN get fed, but they will be scared every day of their lives doing it. Us Elders don’t quite understand it. We’ll have to use a bit of empathy to get there. It absolutely helps us to think of Young Souls as children in adult bodies, and we’ll understand a lot better why they act the way they do.
This is for the Elders only: When you think of what you want to be, start with your sexuality. Then, protect it at all costs. And yes. You’re allowed to be… horny. Fantasize freely. (I’ll get to your coaching program later. 😉 )
